More and more people are joining various dating sites hoping to get matches. There are a number of them who get responses from the “wrong” kind of people. On the other hand, there are those who send messages and don’t get any reply at all.
Perhaps you are attractive, your picture is hot and you are not an oddball. You carefully choose corroborating photos that can make you look socially well-balanced and fun. You rightly consider yourself a great catch. Then, you spot an attractive person on a dating site and you create an email which is not only witty, but also complimentary, and hit the send button. You wait an hour or two but nothing. Then days pass by without getting any response that leaves you wondering what exactly happened.
You wonder why you aren’t getting any replies or why your messages are being ignored. What’s going wrong with your online dating strategy?
This is A Common Problem I see with my dating coaching clients.
There is a simple answer to this issue. You may have made a common mistake made by online dating newbies. Here are some tips that can enlighten you.
First of all, let’s take a look at what happens when someone contacts someone else on a dating site. People are looking for a partner who is fun, polite and exciting. When a person makes his/her interest known, they fall into the trap of giving the power to the other person. Obviously, saying “Hi” or sending an email in any manner, shape or form suggests that the other person is attractive. That’s fine but it’s not particularly interesting. Being mysterious is very important here; not having an idea of whether or not the person you are communicating with has an interest in you for the initial five minutes, or the first two or three emails is very wise.
When you start communicating with a person either in person or online, that doesn’t in any way show that you are interested in that person, the person will think you are just friendly. Also, since you are not being obvious about your interest, he/she will immediately become more curious about you because they may not be able to tell whether you have other interests or not.
So, you may wonder how then you can talk to someone you like without showing your interest. The trick is to have a reason to be in communiqué with your targeted to give you a chance to demonstrate that they are attractive.
For instance, indicate that you are in need of some information about something and they are better placed to help. This is even easier on the internet. Come up with a reason that you think they can help based on what they have indicated in their profile. Ask about something you are sure they are versed in or well-informed about. They will be intrigued and may not know whether or not you are interested in dating them. This could be a question about your photos, such as which do they prefer. Or if they been somewhere you’d like to visit then you could ask them about it.
To succeed in online dating, it is important for you to make your profile more descriptive because it gives other people a good excuse to email you. This provides a concrete reason for communication and puts both of you in a comfortable and interest-provoking position to establish a rapport and a dating relationship.
If you’d like to make sure that you get LOTS of replies and therefore plenty of dates, contact me now for some personal one to one dating coaching. I’m available to help you either by Skype or face to face. Don’t wait around in frustration any longer and get in touch now!