So you’ve got gone out on a first date and for some reason it didn’t work out.
The chemistry just wasn’t there, you didn’t make a connection and ended up extremely disappointed.
It’s a common scenario that happens to everyone. So what can you do about it?
Here’s my easy suggestion: Just carry on and keep trying!
The important thing is not to put all your eggs in one basket and focus your attention on just one person at the start.
I’m not suggesting you start two timing people, just don’t just bank on one person….at least not until you’ve dated them a few times first.
Only the every lucky ones get the right pick at the first go it self. For the rest of us, we just have to keep trying till we succeed. Another advantage of trying out different people is that you can get to choose. You shouldn’t just jump at the person who you like the look of. Take you time, give yourself some breathing space and then make the right decision.
Nobody can force you into making a commitment. It should be completely your choice. Of course, if you get the right cues and something deep down inside tells you that this is the right person for you, then what are you waiting for, go ahead and show the green signal.
But on the other hand if someone is trying to force you into making a commitment and you feel hard pressed, gently try to break away. All you have to do is put your foot down very firmly and tell the person that you need more time.
However, it is not good to keep a person waiting indefinitely. Tell the person that you need perhaps a week’s time or more than that. But don’t let the person realize that you are checking out other people. Just tell them that this is probably the most important decision in your life so you just want to be sure.
James Preece – The Dating Guru
James Preece is the UK’s top dating coach and is the only dating expert who actually works “hands on” in the dating industry.